People are all so different. But on a continuun of people, I'm actually pretty OK.
Generally when I struggle with building a relationship with someone, others that I respect and like have the same challenges. In the past I would have assumed it was me - I don't do that any more. And, interestingly once the conversations opens up I pretty quickly find it's not me.
Sam just asked me if I get on with CQ. My response was "does anyone?". He chuckled because he had been thinking it was all him. Nup.
We talked about the difference between working for Simon - where you knew exactly where you were. Margin is too tight, not spending any cpaex there. Sometimes the messages weren't palatable but you definitely knew what you needed to do. Sam had taken a pack up to CQ for approval and left the room with no feel for whether it was good, bad, understood, or if he was out of a job.
On balance we all agreed we prefer to know where we are with people.
What drives authenticity? Why do some people immediately relate as genuine - even if you don't agree with them, you can see where they are coming from and admire their integrity in their own beliefs. Others, not so much. But what is the behaviour they are exhibiting that gives you this impression?
Eye contact or lack of? Maybe
Prevarication
Lack of self-esteem/self-awareness manifesting as over confidence
Damning others with faint praise
Too much rhetoric - but equally too many facts can give a bad impression
A lack of humbleness is a big one
So I'm seeing it is the ingredients of personal leadership.
What impressions do I leave:
I definitely get the genuinely care tick
I hope I get the humbleness - I certainly don't beleive I have all the answers
I try not to complain or gossip - but don't always succeed
I do prevaricate when I've been caught out - note to self - don't put self in a position of being caught out.
Honesty?
Sense of Humour
Creating space for others to grow. That is a goal I do aspire to.
